Two Months Till Madness Begins


Who am I kidding, the madness has started.

I went to a wedding show today to get ideas. I’m about eight months away and in about two months or so I’ll have to get serious on “save the dates,” wedding dress shopping and all the other stuff that weddings entail.

Weddings are so much work.

I always said I was fine with eloping and having a huge party. Then before you know it, you have a venue booked, a photographer and someone making your cake.

Throwing a great party sounds amazing, but it’s really starting to hit me how big this is. I see how it makes people go nuts, so I’m going to do my best to stay grounded.

I did get a few really great ideas today though.  In terms of cakes I’m strongly leaning toward a square. Maybe a little mismatched. Red is the color we chose, and gerber daisies for the flowers.  So maybe we could toss a few on the cake. Couple red accents, simple.

photo-4I’m learning these little things are so significant.  All of these little things really add up. Lately I’ve been stressing on the music. If I’m going to be bridezilla-ey on anything, it’s the music.  I don’t want anything old or cheesy.  I was fine with downloading it all myself and playing it on a Mac, however, I’m starting to think about that realistically and not sure how it will work. Just because the music will have a couple seconds in between each song, we’d have to plan out playlists ahead of time.  Then with all the events that go on, you really need someone to help guide things few. I’m starting to think I need to find a DJ. One that I can trust to not pay cheesetastic music.

Sometime in the next couple months I’ll need to go dress shopping.  I’m not picky at all, well to an extent. As long as it’s pretty and fits my body type, it works for me. I might be a frugal bride-to-be and get a $100 off the rack dress.


It’s just for a day, I don’t want to put myself in the hole anymore than I already am for something I’m only going to wear once. That applies to my friends and maid of honor as well. I hope they’re able to find things they could possibly wear again. Well, not sure about my maid of honor, but maybe I can get something that she can have altered into a cocktail dress for later.

Well if I got anything today, it was great cake samples and free champagne.  I’m not sure what type of cake we’ll have. I think we’re leaning toward red velvet with a cream cheese icing.  I also really love an almond vanilla flavor with a butter cream icing too.

So many decisions…

Thoughts on Wedding Planning

I’m about t-minus eight months away from my wedding. So far I’ve picked a venue and color scheme. I also have  a photographer and someone who will make my cake. The venue takes care of flowers and I’ll take care of a couple bouquets and boutonnieres on my own. I still need to come up with my invite list and send save-the-dates  in the next two months.

I’m excited about it but I’m getting super nervous, just because it’s working with a lot of people. I have this thing about me where I want to make people comfortable. I’d prefer to do and pay for it all, but that can’t quite happen. Although I’ll try my best.

Everyone says “it’s your day” but at the end of the day, it has nothing to do with me and everything to do with everyone else. And I honestly don’t expect anyone to halt their life. It’s just one day. But I do hope I give everyone enough notice so if they want to do things they can. Not feeling like they’re being forced to do it.

That’s my worst fear is to stress someone out over my wedding. I never ever ever, and I mean EVER, want to make someone dread anything about my wedding. I want people to just enjoy everything. And in return, I hope the back and forth of planning doesn’t get stressful on my part or to get let down. I let people walk all over me, as I’m clearly making it known. Right now, I should be saying “this is what we’re doing, and when. So make it work.” But absolutely not! That’s absurd. I’d never want to do that to anyone. I’m sorry, but a wedding isn’t that big of a deal. I’m planning one, I can say that.

I remember when one of my friends asked me about doing something–and I told her “all I need you to do is come and get drunk. That’s you’re only responsibility.” That’s all I want people to do, whether it’s my bridal shower, bachelorette party or the actual wedding day.

I’m realistic, I know people’s thoughts on any of these things. They dread them. It takes up time in your day. Your weekend. I’d rather be sitting on my ass at home on a Saturday night than go to a wedding. But I hope that what we’re putting together will make that person’s Saturday night worth their while. One that they look back on years from now and remember it being a fun and memorable experience in a good way. And the views at our venue surely won’t disappoint.

That’s my goal, eight months to go.

Finally! Venue Progress

I have so many things going on at the moment, but I have finally made some progress on my wedding–a venue!

We have been so focused on selling our house and moving, as well as other things, that my wedding has definitely not been on the top of my priority list. I know, that’s odd. Most bride-to-be’s start planning the second they’re proposed to. I’ve definitely had ideas flowing, but I really haven’t done much.

I knew I wanted a small wedding and a huge reception. I hope people understand I’m not excluding them from our wedding, I’d just like it to be more intimate and throw a huge party and show everyone a great time.

The venue has been on the top of my list of to-dos though.  Last night I sent out some emails to venues looking for pricing and one emailed me back today.

I’m on a budget–and one of the greatest things about this venue is that they don’t charge for the space. Just the food and beverage minimum. It is also on the 36th or so floor in downtown Indianapolis with incredible views of the city.

So I’m beyond elated–even though it’s all TBD at this point.

It costs how much?

I joined a wedding planning site a couple hours ago and just spend about a half hour browsing through venues.  I don’t really care to have a large ceremony but I would like to have a hell of a party.  Unfortunately you need to feed people and I’d like to provide free drinks.  I know it’s not cheap and I’m seeing that as I browse through venues.  And of course I would want something downtown because it will be easy for guests to stay and walk.

However, by the looks of what I’m finding so far, that’s probably not happening.  I’ve got time to keep searching.

Then I saw my long checklist of items I need to start working on.


Will get right on that.

I’m not overwhelmed.