The Start of a New Year is Just Always Easier

Weight LossOnce Halloween hits, it’s really hard for the following two months to stay true to fitness goals. It’s very possible, don’t get me wrong, it’s just hard with family functions, holiday parties, etc. Maybe that’s why it’s easy to say January 1 is a good day to get back on the wagon. After all, there really isn’t much coming up. You need some time not to be tempted to build up the strength to say no.

Once you’ve got a couple weeks under  your belt of being healthy and maybe seeing a pound or two go, it suddenly become much easier to say “You know what? No. I don’t want that donut. I don’t want that cookie. I don’t need that pasta.” You don’t want to ruin all the hard work you’ve done.

For me, I did really well over the summer. I got down to numbers I haven’t seen in awhile and was really happy with myself. Then the holidays set in, and I’m not too far away from where I was, but I’ll need to do some work to get there. Then I’ll need to do some work to get where I want to be.

I get a lot of shit from people from where I want to be, but we all need to remember to keep our weight loss goals relative to ourselves. That includes myself. When people are thinner than me, or I admire the way they look, it frustrates me they’re trying to lose more. But I don’t walk in their shoes. Who am I to judge? Think of it that way. It’s all relative.

This treadmill is getting unfolded!

This treadmill is getting unfolded!

With my wedding being this year, I really need to step it up. Absolutely no excuses. This sounds like such a typical “new year” thing to say. But I’m on a deadline. I have eight months.

Originally I wanted to do this on my own, but then I realized I needed to become a part of something. I’m going to be doing a challenge with a group of girls, then will also be going back to Weight Watchers. I stopped WW a few months ago because I was tight on money and had a calculator. I figured why not do it myself? But obviously, I haven’t. And now that I have a smart phone, I can use the app. I’m really looking forward to that.

What I love about WW is how realistic it is. It teaches you healthier decisions. And you can eat treats and snacks. You just have to be smart about it. I’m really looking forward to getting back on track. And I know I can do it. I’ve lost 20 pounds. I’ve been really hovering over the same weight for about a year, it’s gone up a bit during the holidays. Hopefully I can just work really hard and in a few months, I’ll really be happy about the decision to become a part of the challenge and pay for WW.

Here’s to a successful 2013!

My First Time Eating Oysters

During my trip to New York this past September, another couple took my fiancé, and I and one other friend, to The Dutch.  As soon as we sat down to eat, one of the things they were raving about the oysters and ordered them.

Back tracking a bit, I’m a midwestern girl who is perfectly content with Velveeta shells and cheese. When I eat fish, it’s mostly popcorn shrimp or fish sticks. I’m quite picky with food, but over the years have completely opened my mind to trying new things. I’m so glad I have.

Anyway, back to the oysters.

I was open to trying them, I was just nervous I was going to eat it wrong. It felt like a shot to me–you have to take it quick and you can’t mess it up.

They taught me how–take the fork and loosen it up then take it in. Chew it a little bit then swallow. It’s nothing to actually be chewed like normal food.

Not too hard, right?

I loosened it up a bit then went all in. However it did get a smidge stuck, so my first taste was just the water. It was salty and very much tasted like the ocean. It was so fresh.

I didn’t want to ruin it, so I quickly was able to finish the rest of it. Chewing it was different. It has a different texture, definitely not something you can continuously chew. It went so quickly it really wasn’t that bad. I’m not sure if I’ll ever eat oysters again, but I’m definitely glad I tried them.

There was a slight panic attack after I ate it, wondering if I had a shellfish allergy. I don’t think I’ve had much shellfish that I know of, and since I’m allergic to peanuts and potatoes, I wondered. All was good though, no anaphylactic reaction. However I did have a small rash on my chest and back that I’d noticed that night, so perhaps I shouldn’t eat the oysters again. I did once!

And as for the rest of the meal, it was phenomenal. We had little oyster sandwiches, spicy lamb tacos, beets with smoked egg, apple and yogurt dressing, smoked ricotta ravioli with tomato and soft herbs and so much more. Never in a million years did I think I’d try any of that. (I take that back, I was excited about the ricotta ravioli). Sometimes you just need to open your mind a little bit.

Snow Day

We had our first blizzard since 2007 today.  Even though I had already taken the day off weeks ago, I had absolutely no plans of leaving the house, therefore it felt like a true snow day to me. The cold air was frigid and the winds were howling.

He ended up having to go in to work, so we both were up at 5:30 this morning. That was nice, as we were working off about four hours of sleep. The wind was blowing so hard, it somehow blew the piece of drywall that covers our attic access up and twisted in the air it hence falling onto his tool chest and bouncing onto my car. And that was all with the garage door shut.

The city, most of the state really, shut down. They were advising people to not drive if they didn’t have to and there were wrecks and slide offs left and right. As I was watching the news, they kept it on an INDOT camera of a regular truck trying to pull a big rig out of a ditch. He was just sliding left and right, but once a Hoosier Helper truck came along, the big rig was able to get out and onto wherever he was going.

As for my day, he ended up being sent home due to the weather around 8:30 a.m. and got back around 10:15 a.m. He shoveled the driveway and I did the dishes as our wonderful dishwasher decided to go kaput on us.

…then the most eventful part of the day happened. We sat on the couch. Honey Bunches of Oats with cinnamon for lunch, followed by watching a ridiculously long move on LMN about the green river killer, dozing off at the tail end. The cat decided to join me, she was either laying on me or next to me all day.

Pretty eventful, huh?

You know, I’ll be honest. Sitting on my butt all day didn’t make me feel that great. Literally, I felt blah all day. And the longer you sit, the less you want to get up and be productive. I had spurts throughout the day, but not really.

We finished our snow day out with some chili and garlic bread, followed by watching three episodes of Tosh.0.

Pretty good snow day.

Thoughts on Wedding Planning

I’m about t-minus eight months away from my wedding. So far I’ve picked a venue and color scheme. I also have  a photographer and someone who will make my cake. The venue takes care of flowers and I’ll take care of a couple bouquets and boutonnieres on my own. I still need to come up with my invite list and send save-the-dates  in the next two months.

I’m excited about it but I’m getting super nervous, just because it’s working with a lot of people. I have this thing about me where I want to make people comfortable. I’d prefer to do and pay for it all, but that can’t quite happen. Although I’ll try my best.

Everyone says “it’s your day” but at the end of the day, it has nothing to do with me and everything to do with everyone else. And I honestly don’t expect anyone to halt their life. It’s just one day. But I do hope I give everyone enough notice so if they want to do things they can. Not feeling like they’re being forced to do it.

That’s my worst fear is to stress someone out over my wedding. I never ever ever, and I mean EVER, want to make someone dread anything about my wedding. I want people to just enjoy everything. And in return, I hope the back and forth of planning doesn’t get stressful on my part or to get let down. I let people walk all over me, as I’m clearly making it known. Right now, I should be saying “this is what we’re doing, and when. So make it work.” But absolutely not! That’s absurd. I’d never want to do that to anyone. I’m sorry, but a wedding isn’t that big of a deal. I’m planning one, I can say that.

I remember when one of my friends asked me about doing something–and I told her “all I need you to do is come and get drunk. That’s you’re only responsibility.” That’s all I want people to do, whether it’s my bridal shower, bachelorette party or the actual wedding day.

I’m realistic, I know people’s thoughts on any of these things. They dread them. It takes up time in your day. Your weekend. I’d rather be sitting on my ass at home on a Saturday night than go to a wedding. But I hope that what we’re putting together will make that person’s Saturday night worth their while. One that they look back on years from now and remember it being a fun and memorable experience in a good way. And the views at our venue surely won’t disappoint.

That’s my goal, eight months to go.

This is the day it has to stop

Even though I’m getting married, children aren’t in my immediate future. If I can help it, I’m just not ready. I know there’s never a time to be ready, but it’s not quite on my agenda.

And I’ll admit it, there have been times where I’ve wondered if I even want kids. I do.

The times the thought crossed my mind of not wanting them always was overruled. Almost a moral dilemma. One of the things we’re put on this earth to do is procreate.

Well today the tables were turned. Today I wondered about the world. This world we live in. Is it going to be a safe place?

A man murdered 20 children today in what should have been one of the most safest places for them to be. As well as six adults. Adults they entrusted their lives. Maybe even more more since I’ve written this. The man was sick. Mentally sick.

Not that long ago, another man opened fire in a movie theater.

I can list many others, but not even these two deserve any more attention.

But we live in a world where things like this happen. And instead of coming together, many are fighting about the gun laws or about how they think things should be handled. There are a lot of “should have, would have, could have’s” going on.

But they didn’t. This happened. This tragic thing has happened.

I feel more and more our country is becoming divided.

We need to see the bigger picture here. And the bigger picture is we need to open our eyes. We need to go into a different direction. Because today? Today a town, where people moved to be safe, was terrorized.

I don’t know if I’d want to bring a child into this kind of world. How do you explain to a child that their classmate is dead? Even worse, have to console what they saw? These poor children, and adults who survived, will have to live with this awful awful tragedy.

I’ve seen many people say today they want to shelter their children more. I don’t blame them. But realistically, you can’t hide your children from the world because eventually they’ll have to handle it alone. And I’m not being judgmental for those planning to have kids or have them. At all. And I’m sure I will have them one day. But today has really made me think. Really hard.

Today has made me think of a lot of things. It’s brought tears to my eyes. It’s just sick. I hope this is the day that changes everything. This has to stop.