See Ya, 2011

Usually end of the year blogs are sappy and reminiscent. They’re also looking forward to the next year after looking back at all the bad things that happened.

Well you know what? 2011 wasn’t bad for me. Sure, I had my moments. But all in all, it was a great year.

I think one of the best things about it were getting settled into my job and having that kind of stability.  Then also everything that’s happened with Cosmo Radio. I’ve been a listener for years, but finally being able to connect with people and make new friends was amazing.

Then to top it off, New York has been at the top of my list. It’s always felt right to me–so not only being able to go there, but then to meet all my friends from Cosmo Radio there was just the most amazing thing ever. Can’t really describe it any other way.

I feel like I’ve accomplished a lot this year. I’ve done a ton of really neat project at my job, then a few other little writing things here and there. It’s cool to do something you love.  That’s what I’m doing.

I’ve noticed a ton of people posting how they are going to change everything and 2012 will be better. Just because the date changes doesn’t mean your life will. You have to make the changes. You have to dump the people that bring you down. You have to leave the job you hate. You have to finish that project you’ve been working on. You have to work out and lose that weight. You have to just do.

So if something brought you down in 2011, don’t drag it into 2012. Make a change. The interim might suck a little, but what’s worse–things being kind of “eh” for awhile, or being miserable for a year?

Here’s to a great 2012. And the world not ending next December. Cheers.

A Million Reasons to Be Here

I watched this video just now, from a boy named Jonah. I hope the power of what he has to share reaches far to other kids like him.

I am absolutely disgusted with bullying. It has gotten to this point where children are attempting and committing suicide. This is sick. Why? Because they don’t realize how great things can be. What life will be like after school. All you know is what’s in your school, what your parents teach you, what’s on TV, etc. Kids don’t know any better. You don’t know what you don’t know.

But here is what I do know that I want all kids to know.

IT GETS BETTER. 

It is absolutely sick that some kids, and adults for that matter, feel it’s okay to bully. It’s not. What gives you the right to put someone down for being who they are? It doesn’t matter what others are doing! If it doesn’t affect you, then stay out. And if you’re being hurt, talk to someone.

KIDS.

Find someone you are comfortable with. If you’re at a point where you just don’t know where else to go, what to do, find someone you trust. It doesn’t have to be your parents. It doesn’t have to be friends you don’t trust. But find someone you do trust and hang on. I promise you, there is someone out there who cares. And the amazing thing about the internet and social media now is the ability to find others like you. People with the same interest. People with the same fears.

The people bullying you aren’t going to get far in life. I promise that to you. Don’t let them break you. Hold on. At the end of it all, whether it’s the school year or type of school you’re in~you will be the bigger person. You won’t realize it now, but you will.

I love how Jonah said he isn’t going anywhere because he has a million reasons to be here.

You’re so young. You have so much life to live. Find the one thing that gets you through and hold onto it tight. Because it really does get better. 

Everyone deserves love.

I listened to someone today who is in a new relationship  and is genuinely happy. I haven’t heard this kind of happy from him before and it was incredible to hear someone who hasn’t been in a good relationship-be in one.

It really made me think because there are so many people that settle. They stay. They are afraid to leave because they don’t believe there is better out there. They believe they don’t deserve better. Or maybe they don’t realize what else is out there. They don’t know what they are missing.

One of the things he said today was,

“She makes me feel like I matter.”

My thought:

“You do matter.”

Everyone matters. Everyone deserves a good realtionship. Sure, they are work. Sure, there are disagreements.  Sure, there are sacrifices and comprimises. But they should all be disagreements, sacrifices and compromises that make you both better. They should help you move on. Not set you back.

I think people in relationships and are belittled, controlled or just not happy whether you fight a lot or just aren’t a good match should know there is better. No one deserves to be mistreated. No one deserves to be unhappy. Why waste your life being unhappy? You shouldn’t dread a relationship. It should make you better. A friend of mine is in a new relationship and I love how she says,

“He just makes me want to be better.”

I love that.

No one should be with anyone that holds you back. Just to be better. Be the best person you can be. It’ll be great for you and everyone around you. And I think this applies to anyone in your life, not necessarily a significant other. If you have someone in your life that is toxic, don’t waste your time.

Everyone deserves happiness. Everyone deserves love.